Why this mediator, not another mediator?

In the Grand Rapids metro area there are many qualified mediators who can handle your issues. Call me first because with over thirty years of divorce experience you can consider me a “triage nurse”. I can handle your litigation but that is not what makes me different. I am different because I will explain the […]

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Divorce or annulment?

Folks often believe an annulment is easier, if there is a short term marriage, with no property of child issues to resolve. In reality getting an annulment is pretty tricky. To get an annulment in Michigan, you need to show some type of fraud or disability. If a person is underage, that might work. If […]

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What do I do?

What do I do, if I have a Court hearing set? Court hearings happen.  Michigan requires at least one court hearing, called a pro con, even if there is an agreement.  The greater the dispute the more you will attend court hearings.  Some folks just want to tell the Court their side of the story.  […]

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Another Lawyer

I was sworn in as an attorney, for Michigan November 1, 2012.   I can help you get through the divorce maze, filing paperwork if you need that done.  I still very much believe mediation is a better method, but too many of the clients have needed some help with the documents, so I am now a […]

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My Spouse won’t go to Mediation

 Mediation is court ordered in Kent County, and occasionally ordered in surrounding areas.  What people need to remember is that most family law matters settle outside of court anyway, but attending mediation often clears the air and lets parties communicate in a protected arena.  It seems like Mediation is costly, but compared to ongoing litigation, discovery […]

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Help, I have no lawyer, what is a judgment?

Paperwork can be an issue.  There is a very efficient group, the Legal Assistance Center, located on the fifth floor of the courthouse downtown in Grand Rapids.  For a nominal fee they will provide you a packet of forms, and law school interns will help you fill in the forms so you can take your […]

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Using Technology

Mediators often tend to be experienced lawyers – you can translate that to “older”.  We were not born with an IPod in our hands.  This means technology is not second nature to some of us, and we need to adjust.   Using technology in mediation is a great chance to let the parties visualize when they want, […]

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Taxes — Don’t forget Taxes

We are all in the middle of sorting through those envelopes  that arrive in February, statements from all the financial institutions to get ready for tax time.  Taxes are a big problem in divorces, mainly because people forget the talk about taxes.  Good lawyers and good mediators should ask to include these issues, which hopefully […]

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Friction, it is a good thing

Mediation is about settlement, but settlement is about communication, and that is often based in friction.  Conflict is part of our nature.  Conflict arises when two people have differing opinions, and can be illuminating in the relationship.  As mediators we should be looking to define the conflict, let it be spoken out loud in the […]

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