Mediation is court ordered in Kent County, and occasionally ordered in surrounding areas.  What people need to remember is that most family law matters settle outside of court anyway, but attending mediation often clears the air and lets parties communicate in a protected arena.  It seems like Mediation is costly, but compared to ongoing litigation, discovery and court dates, it is an inexpensive alternative.  Tell your spouse you will pay for their share if at the end of the meeting, they still think it is a waste of time.   You do need to make sure you both come prepared — bring me all your tax returns, real estate appraisals, pay stubs, credit card statements, loan statements.   If you do that, it will at the least give you both a spreadsheet to outline where you both stand.